How I was setting myself for HEARTACHE and how I stopped
When I first started dating again after my divorce, I thought it would be sooo easy to find a cool, fun, smart guy that I was super attracted to be my boyfriend.
I was popular and had a ton of male and female friends.
I spent time taking care of myself so I was attractive.
I was an extrovert and it was not difficult for me to strike up a convo with anyone.
I had no problem attracting guys.
My problem was picking the wrong ones.
It took me YEARS to stop picking the Unavailable Ones.
let me tell you there are a lot of ways that a guy can show up Unavailable.
One of the main ways is Unavailable doesn't have time.
He isn't a bad guy. He just doesn't have time.
Maybe he travels a lot for work.
Maybe he has young kids under 13.
Maybe he is starting his own business.
There was a guy I was dating before Kurt and we were getting along really well but it became clear to me this guy only had 2 hours a week for a relationship.
I knew that I needed more than that in order to get to know someone and have the type of relationship I really wanted.
I was ready to see someone at the minimum of 3 times a week, even at the beginning!
So I paid attention, I honored my desires and had a convo with him.
He admitted not being at the level I was wanting and we decided to just be friends.
My WIN in that is that I did not let the relationship keep going more than a few weeks AND I didn't make him wrong or bad or bring up the old story that " no one has time for me" ... I am so over that story.
I just Blessed and Released! (I learned this in sales training.. when the client is not a good fit )
Honor your desires and make sure your guy has the same ones. It will save you some heartache and help you heal from old stories/patterns.
Grab your guide and stop wasting your time and hurting your heart!
10 Clear Signs That He Is Unavailable!