It doesn’t have to take years, Lee’s guy was the third guy she met online.
Lee had a goal to find a boyfriend before her birthday which was 6 months away. She met this guy within 2 months of working with me, but Lee didn't know he was the one at the time.
If left to her own devices, Lee would have thrown him away many many many times, because she couldn't see past her blindspots.
One change that we worked on during her sessions was to her tendency to over analyze and think about everything little thing that happened and to look for the worst possible scenario.
The other piece that was huge for her to shift was practicing how to communicate from the heart instead of being defensive.
And it is working! They just came back from their first vacation together! Yay for LOVE!